Our Trauma Healing Blog

It all comes down to money and sex…

by Benjamin Fry A comment on Twitter this week led me to the article in the Daily Mail headed “Who needs to talk when you look like that! Bikini-clad Kate Upton speaks just seven words in new ad to plug American satellite provider”. The connection with trauma? Well, once you understand the nervous system, you can […]

Stuck in the trauma cycle; how to know you are there, and what to do to get out.

by Benjamin Fry Delighted that Addictions Today magazine decided to publish my article. It isn’t easy to read the colourful pdf so here’s the copy. It’s quite long but I hope you’ll find it interesting… Background I was in the grips of what would classically be called a nervous breakdown a few years ago, and […]

How infantile rage in an adult body can be deadly

by Benjamin Fry Fall out from disappointing relationships can take many forms. The sudden and violent nature of their reversal is a surprising phenomena and yet the oldest narrative of human society. But what drives this terrible dysfunction? A part of every relationship is an entry into fantasy. The more traumatized we have been in […]

I spent £10,000 to look like one of my barbies

by Benjamin Fry Recently I read in The Sun about Charlotte Hothman and her obsession with looking like one of her barbies. I was compelled to write… Much of the drama of life comes from the combination of two separate factors. Firstly we are all familiar with the experiences that confront us in what we […]

What is Somatic Experiencing?

by Benjamin Fry Visit my YouTube channel at to watch Dr Peter Levine explain Somatic Experiencing using a slinky! Benjamin Fry works across a range of services and media using personal, professional and scientific expertise to help people to a baggage-free life. A published author, and a past columnist for The Times and Psychologies magazine, Benjamin […]

How a sweet addiction turned this man into a human donut…!

by Benjamin Fry One of the key legacies of untreated or unfinished trauma is that the body’s nervous system can become highly dysregulated. This makes for a very biologically uncomfortable place for us to live in. Spending time inside a body which is malfunctioning biologically can be unbearable. Therefore in order to be able to […]

How problems with binge drinking can be helped through trauma therapy

by Benjamin Fry I was reading this morning about Jane Smith and her ‘secret shame of being a binge drinking mother’ and I was struck by how often the word ‘shame’ is applied to the consequences of addictive behaviours. When we look at trauma theory we look at the body’s inability to complete the full […]

Why would a father blow up his house with his sons inside?

by Benjamin Fry I read an article in The Times today and wondered what it must be like for fathers to be separated from their children and why is it often so painful and so difficult? One of the things that we all do as parents with our children, and that we’ve all experienced from […]

Launch of Khiron House

by Benjamin Fry We are very proud to launch Khiron House today. The clinic opens on 26th September. Information has been sent to the members of Benjamin Fry’s mailing list including a special introductory offer for the first six clients. Sign up to our mailing list if you would like priority information in future. Khiron […]

How I lost my mind and found my soul

The story behind why Benjamin set up Khiron House

by Benjamin Fry When Benjamin Fry, a father of five, had a mental breakdown his skills as a psychotherapist were of no use. He explains how he recovered. One cold November morning in 2009 I woke, as usual, in the dark, shaking. I lay there, exhausted, trying in vain to talk myself out of my […]

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