Archive for March 2012

Stuck in the trauma cycle; how to know you are there, and what to do to get out.

by Benjamin Fry Delighted that Addictions Today magazine decided to publish my article. It isn’t easy to read the colourful pdf so here’s the copy. It’s quite long but I hope you’ll find it interesting… Background I was in the grips of what would classically be called a nervous breakdown a few years ago, and […]

How infantile rage in an adult body can be deadly

by Benjamin Fry Fall out from disappointing relationships can take many forms. The sudden and violent nature of their reversal is a surprising phenomena and yet the oldest narrative of human society. But what drives this terrible dysfunction? A part of every relationship is an entry into fantasy. The more traumatized we have been in […]

I spent £10,000 to look like one of my barbies

by Benjamin Fry Recently I read in The Sun about Charlotte Hothman and her obsession with looking like one of her barbies. I was compelled to write… Much of the drama of life comes from the combination of two separate factors. Firstly we are all familiar with the experiences that confront us in what we […]

What is Somatic Experiencing?

by Benjamin Fry Visit my YouTube channel at to watch Dr Peter Levine explain Somatic Experiencing using a slinky! Benjamin Fry works across a range of services and media using personal, professional and scientific expertise to help people to a baggage-free life. A published author, and a past columnist for The Times and Psychologies magazine, Benjamin […]

How a sweet addiction turned this man into a human donut…!

by Benjamin Fry One of the key legacies of untreated or unfinished trauma is that the body’s nervous system can become highly dysregulated. This makes for a very biologically uncomfortable place for us to live in. Spending time inside a body which is malfunctioning biologically can be unbearable. Therefore in order to be able to […]